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Thursday, May 17th, 2012
3:51 pm
50+ Professors & Staff Resign From Christian University After Refusing to Sign Homosexuality Pledge
In October of last year, news came out that Shorter University, a Christian college in Rome, Georgia, had decided to make its employees sign a controversial pledge that says that they are not engaging in homosexuality, among other forbidden activities. Now, after nearly 50% of the employees refused to sign the Pledge. The college, which is affiliated with the Georgia Baptist Convention, has received a massive number of resignations
Plainly stated: the opposition to the regulatory mechanism isn’t likely to lead Shorter University to reverse course. Aside from forbidding an active role in a gay relationship, the lifestyle pledge also bans pre-marital sex, adultery and drug use and abuse. Additionally, employees are asked to be active members of a church and to live their lives as committed, Bible-believing followers of Jesus Christ.
“Shorter University will hire persons who are committed Bible believing Christians, who are dedicated to integrating biblical faith in their classes and who are in agreement with the University Statement of Faith,” the document reads. “Moreover, employees are expected to be active members of a local church.”


Looks to me like this college needed a good bowel movement. The college administered the laxative in the form of the pledge. The result? A good cleansing.

Now hire some real Christians and get on with educating.
Saturday, March 13th, 2010
11:00 am
New for Christians with ADD/ADHD
New Community for Christians with ADD
Hey everyone!
I'm very excited to say that I just started a new LJ community that I think will be really wonderful once it gets going!
It's called wriggleyfish, and the goal is for it to be a safe space for Christians with ADD/ADHD to share their thoughts and experiences, support each other, ask questions and get helpful answers, grow together, and whatever else God might do with it!
I've been really blessed by the adults_add community, but have found that there is a real need for a community where Christianity can be the overtones while we discuss ADD, and where an understanding of ADD can play into our discussions of theology.
I hope you will check it out, and please join if it fits the bill for you - I think that once people join amd start talking it can become a really delightful, thriving community!
Message me if you have any thoughts/questions!
God bless!

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Saturday, March 6th, 2010
9:20 pm
Because Jesus rode a donkey.
Because the Christian Left groups haven't been super active lately and there are some recent issues around these days, I created this in the hopes of getting a more active community going. I also just got word I was accepted to seminary today, so my first act as a potential employer for the Church of Christ is to create this! :-D

Everyone, "Jew or Greek, Slave or Free" Man, Woman or Child (brownie points if you catch the reference) can join. It does not matter if you are Jewish, Christian, Buddhist, or Muslim. If you are Christian maybe you want more fellowship. If you are a non-Christian maybe you want to understand this weird cosmic-Jewish zombie the Christians worship, so maybe you have questions. It does not matter, you are welcome here.

However, this group shares the beliefs of the ELCA, the Episcopal, Methodist, Presbyterian (USA) and other such churches. This group is on the moderate to liberal side of Christianity. If that makes you uncomfortable it is probably wise to not join.

Anyway, here it is!


Brought to you by myself and the lovely evilnel
Sunday, October 4th, 2009
1:05 pm
Jesus, Choice, Love, and Gay Marriage Rights
Posted this on my personal journal, then thought I might come over and post it here, too.

From Philip Yancey's The Jesus I Never Knew. which is just amazing me right now:

The more I get to know Jesus, the more impressed I am with what Ivan Karamazov called 'the miracle of restraint.' The miracles Satan suggested, the signs and wonders the Pharisees demanded, the final proofs I yearn for-these would offer no serious obstacle to an omnipotent God. More amazing is his refusal to perform and overwhelm. God's terrible insistence on human freedon is so absolute that he granted us the power to live as though he did not exist, to spit in his face, to crucify him....

I believe God insists on such restraint because no pyrotechnic displays of omnipotence will achieve the response he desires. Although power can force obedience, only love can summon a response of love, which is the one thing God wants from us and the reson he created us.....

....As I survey the rest of Jesus' life, I see that the pattern of restraint established in the desert [during the Temptation] persisted throughout his life. I never sense Jesus twisting a person's arm. Rather, he stated the consequences of a choice, then threw the decision back to the other party. He answered a wealthy man's question with uncompromising words and then let him walk away. Mark pointedly adds this comment: 'Jesus looked at him and loved him.' Jesus had a realistic view of how the world would respond to him: 'Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold.'

....In short, Jesus showed an incredible respect for human freedom."

I can't hear a sermon, read a Christian book, or listen to a Christian song these days without thinking somewhere in the back of my mind: "And where does all this tie in with what I'm sifting through? What does God REALLY think about homosexuality and all the issues tied in with it?"

And I still don't know.

But this passage in particular had me thinking about gay marriage rights.

Would God come down and MANDATE, make into LAW, something that would take away the choice and freedoms that all people should have? After reading that passage above, I'm thinking not. Maybe He disapproves of gay marriage. Or maybe He's shaking His head over the fact that we could still be so cruel as to not grant gay marriage rights. Like I said, I don't know, and I haven't gotten any clear resolution on the subject yet. But the issue here is CHOICE. If you're looking at it from a religious standpoint, a Christian standpoint, God has never taken away our ablity to CHOOSE what we do with our lives. He's honest with us. He shows us what will be good and what will be bad for us. But He never FORCES us.

So why would Christians, who are supposed to represent Him, decide to forcibly take someone's rights away? Isn't that displaying an attitude that's directly oppositional to God's character?

To be honest, this whole idea of God not forcing us to do things is kind of a new one to me. It shouldn't be, but it is. Yancey describes the church he grew up in as being one that very much forced issues, and I can most definitely relate. It's refreshing to be seeing things differently.

Current Mood: contemplative
Wednesday, September 30th, 2009
12:49 am
Opinions on Sexuality
I really need help and want the opinions of anyone willing to listen. I'm christian but I find myself being attracted to both genders. The problem is that I don't want to be. I find myself more attracted to guys (which I am relieved about) but I feel guilty whenever I think about people of my same gender. I really don't know what to do. Is there a way to be turned 100% straight. I know an exercism won't work because I'm not possessed. 

I wake up every day feeling guilty with this burden. I only want to make God happy, but I feel like it's impossible for me. I starting to feel sick of myself. I just want to be normal. 

I'm sorry if I sound stupid, but this is how I feel.  
Saturday, August 15th, 2009
1:59 am
Each time I ask a christian about this subject, I never really get a clear answer so I'm asking this site:
Is masturbation a sin?  I plan to remain pure until I get married, but I've found this to be a bit of a problem ever since I've entered my teen years. The temptation is so hard to resist so I've using masturbation to try to remain pure. But is this still considered remaining pure? 
Friday, July 24th, 2009
2:35 pm
Are there any For Choice Christians here? Or pro gay/lesbian rights here? I'm not gay or lesbian, and I do consider myself "For Choice" (I hesitate to say "pro-choice" because today's Pro Choice movement implies that women can do whatever they please with their bodies, and I personally believe that within reason abortion is reasonable but it isn't always).
Tuesday, July 21st, 2009
3:49 pm
Happy Post
I just wanted to let the community know that after more than a year of trying, my husband and I are expecting.

Thanks to everyone for their support. I thought it wasn't going to happen but God has His timetable.
Sunday, June 21st, 2009
5:40 pm
I know this subject has come up many times before, but I'd really appreciate your input
Hi. I'm Courtney. 27. I've been lurking lately, but this is the first post.

I guess the easiest way to do this and dive in is to post an excerpt that I recently posted in an f-locked post in my personal journal (don't worry, it's only about a paragraph long). It pretty much sums up where I'm going with this:

Excerpt here.Collapse )

So I guess my questions are: Does anyone else struggle with this dichotomy? If you believe homosexuality is wrong, how do you deal with all the discrimination and pain that can cause? And if you don't believe homosexuality is wrong, how do you deal with what the Bible says? Has everyone come down on one side of the issue or another, or are there other people who are still struggling with resolving this in their minds?

Also, if you know of good resources, I'd appreciate it if you'd point me to them. I think I'm looking for books that clearly explain things from both sides, so I can, together with God, make my own decision.

Current Mood: confused
Wednesday, June 10th, 2009
4:12 pm
oral sex question
Let me preface this by saying my husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year now.

Now to the heart of the matter. My husband and I both love giving oral sex to each other. We both love receiving it too. I always try to fulfill is wishes when it comes to me giving him oral sex. However, for the last few months, unless I'm on my period when getting pregnant would be highly unlikely, anytime I've given him oral sex, I've ended up with this nagging thought that I might be cheating us of the opportunity of getting pregnant. I guess I would hate to think that it might have been the exact time for me to get pregnant and we had oral sex instead of intercourse.

Have any of you ever experienced something like this? Do you have any suggestions for me so I won't feel so guilty about it?
Monday, June 1st, 2009
9:32 pm
Complementarians and Ephesians 5:21
Hey, Complementarians? I understand that there's a lot of scripture that seems to support male headship in marriage. Now, I don't agree with that interpretation, but I understand it, for the most part.

One question, though: what is your view on Ephesians 5:21? ("Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.") It's part of the passage on marriage, after all, with "wives submit to your husbands" coming directly after. Why is this verse disregarded? I do believe that wives need to be submissive to their husbands....but it also seems to me like husbands are commanded to submit to their wives, as well.

This is an honest question. My parents are egalitarians, who consider their relationship an equal partnership, and both say that mutual submission is very important to a happy marriage. Our church holds this view as well (and as my mom is the pastor, it's not like I have someone else in authority to ask). The only answer I've been given was unsatisfying (basically, I was told that "it doesn't apply to married couples" which I don't see any biblical justification for, seeing as it's juxtaposed with the rest of the commands for marriage).

If you believe in male headship in marriage, how do you interpret Ephesians 5:21?


Current Mood: curious
Saturday, May 2nd, 2009
12:49 pm
More than just sex, a chance to get away with the spouse
This was based on something one of our employees said this week. There were five of us ladies from work at lunch and we got to discussing the number of states that each of us had been to. The youngest girl there piped up and said, "Well, I've only been to four states but I've had sex in two of them. That's pretty good." We all got a laugh out if it but it also gave me something to think about doing with my husband.

I think it would be neat to make it a goal to have sex with your spouse in at least one or two new states every year. So far my husband and I have had sex in seven states for sure. I can't remember if we had sex in South Carolina or not. I know we spent the night there but I didn't count it just because I can't remember.

I mentioned it to him and he said he liked the idea. We should try to add at least two new states this year. The real possibilities are Ohio, Indiana, Alabama, West Virginia and maybe Mississippi.

This may sound kinda frivolous but think about it. These would be mostly weekend trips we could take with each other. It would give us a nice chance to talk and get away from our everyday stresses and woes. It would be about sex, yes, but it would also be a nice time to share with each other.

What are your thoughts?
Sunday, March 1st, 2009
7:14 pm
"The notion that women have to want sex to enjoy it is a really misguided idea."
From the Sidney Morning Herald.


Women should say yes, yes, yes more.

Jennie Curtin
February 28, 2009

Forty years after liberated women felt able to say "no" to their partners' demands for sex, they have been urged to say "yes" more often to keep their men happy.

Sex therapist and psychologist Bettina Arndt said different libidos were creating a generation of men who were "miserable, angry and really disappointed" that their need for sex was "being totally disregarded in their relationship".

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Current Mood: cold
Wednesday, February 25th, 2009
2:03 pm
Anti-Gay Bias Should Anger Christians/

Anti-Gay Bias Should Anger Christians
Denunciation of gays has become a Christian Right core value, but Baptist minister Howard Bess says the bigotry must end.




Yes.  Anie Gay Bias should anger Christians but not for the reason Howard Bess says. 

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Saturday, January 17th, 2009
4:28 pm
Resources on purity, forgiveness.
Hi, all. I have a serious problem, and I was hoping I could get some advice.

A young girl in my church (13) is going through a very hard time. Her first boyfriend, who was quite a bit older than her, broke up with after basically using her for sex, and tore her self-esteem to shreds in the process, to the point where she was suicidal. She no longer wants to kill herself, but she's still absolutely devastated. She's dealing with the typical teenage angst over losing her first love, dealing with her secular friends who think she's stupid for getting upset over losing her virginity (in one friend's words: "it's just sex"), and dealing with her church friends and foster mom who are basically treating her like a whore on top of it all.

I'm trying to help her, giving her a shoulder to cry on, etc., but this is way outside of my realm of experience. She's right when she says that I don't know what she's going through...I really, really don't. I can tell her that I love her and that God loves her, but she feels like she's worthless and used up, and nothing I can say makes a difference. And she's thirteen. It breaks my heart.

Do you know of any books or other resources that might help? I know a lot of books that talk about sexual purity, but I don't want to, like, pile on the guilt or make her feel like damaged goods...she's already got enough of that. I'm really looking for a book on her level (she's in middle school, and is fairly new to the church) that talks about forgiveness and redemption and God's love.

Any recommendations? Thanks in advance!

(Also, I would appreciate prayers for her, as well. She's having a really hard time.)

Current Mood: worried
Saturday, December 20th, 2008
10:30 pm
can you be a christian and a sex worker at the same time?
Can you be a christian and a sex worker at the same time?

What I mean is, is it possible to have a sincere faith but also provide sexual services (phone sex, escort services, etc) and not have a conflict between your faith and your work?

Is it even possible that a sex worker with a faith could pray for her clients and care about them as human beings, and actually use her faith and her work together in a positive way?

Or are sex workers kind of 'doomed' and heading for 'hell'?

Are sex workers 'bad people' or can they be compassionate human beings providing sympathy, care and understanding?



{cross-posted to 0hyourgod at this post here.
Saturday, November 15th, 2008
7:23 pm
Serious topic
I have to ask this and please understand why I created a dummy profile to make this post. I am not a troll but I like anonymity due to the subject of the post.

I want to stop masturbating for good, because of the immense guilt I feel afterwards, but even with a lot of effort, I still can't. Have you stopped this habit and if you have, how did you stop?

All comments are screened.
Tuesday, October 21st, 2008
10:59 pm
as basic as it gets...
What is lust and why is it bad? Specifically, what is the distinction between desire, a virtue, and lust, a sin?
Wednesday, September 17th, 2008
10:32 pm
Can someone become holy?
Can someone really become "holy" or really live a "holy" life (in the true sense of the word)? I don't mean through the promise of Christ or for the most part. I mean, can a person get saved and then somehow grow into a person who just quits sinning?

Because there are a lot of "holiness" pastors out there who preach that we need grace to pay for our past sins but we can get saved and through the power of Christ somehow live without sinning from here on out. I don't think that's scriptural at all. Do you?

Can someone become holy? Is anyone reading this holy?

Current Mood: irritated
Monday, August 11th, 2008
10:04 pm
Male circumcision
Someone on my flist just posted this study, indicating that male circumcision is apparently a stronger deterrent to HIV infection than was originally thought, as well as significantly reducing the likelihood of the transmission of another common STD. Just thought I'd share, since we were just talking about it.
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