Erin (lizzypaul) wrote in christianitysex,

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Resources on purity, forgiveness.

Hi, all. I have a serious problem, and I was hoping I could get some advice.

A young girl in my church (13) is going through a very hard time. Her first boyfriend, who was quite a bit older than her, broke up with after basically using her for sex, and tore her self-esteem to shreds in the process, to the point where she was suicidal. She no longer wants to kill herself, but she's still absolutely devastated. She's dealing with the typical teenage angst over losing her first love, dealing with her secular friends who think she's stupid for getting upset over losing her virginity (in one friend's words: "it's just sex"), and dealing with her church friends and foster mom who are basically treating her like a whore on top of it all.

I'm trying to help her, giving her a shoulder to cry on, etc., but this is way outside of my realm of experience. She's right when she says that I don't know what she's going through...I really, really don't. I can tell her that I love her and that God loves her, but she feels like she's worthless and used up, and nothing I can say makes a difference. And she's thirteen. It breaks my heart.

Do you know of any books or other resources that might help? I know a lot of books that talk about sexual purity, but I don't want to, like, pile on the guilt or make her feel like damaged goods...she's already got enough of that. I'm really looking for a book on her level (she's in middle school, and is fairly new to the church) that talks about forgiveness and redemption and God's love.

Any recommendations? Thanks in advance!

(Also, I would appreciate prayers for her, as well. She's having a really hard time.)
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