EDIT---I seem to be taking some serious crapola for this sentence:
"I seem to be taking some serious crapola for all the "CRAZY" stuff ive said about women actually being smart and strong enough to be able to avoid getting raped"
Look peeps this does not mean all rapes. This is a general statement about things i was saying about a particular topic. I was talking about women being able to do a certain thing that's ALL kinda like i might say:
I seem to be taking some serious crapola for all the "CRAZY" stuff ive said about women going to France for the holiday
I seem to be taking some serious crapola for all the "CRAZY" stuff ive said about women taking up basket weaving
I DID NOT SAY:
I seem to be taking some serious crapola for all the "CRAZY" stuff ive said about women actually being smart and strong enough to be able to avoid getting raped in every single flippin case
SHEESH PEOPLE READ THE CRAP BEFORE YOU FLIP OUT
(How this came up was that people were kind of saying rape is always evil which i agree with of course, but i simply pointed out that i felt there were a lot of gals who did not seem to think rape is as evil as i do, since they continuously put themselves in situations where rape is a possibility - like meeting scuzzy guys in bars and going home with them before getting to know them etc). I may have exaggerated a little to amuse myself cuz i assume most of the people here are mature adults, which is a mistake i seem to make quite a lot. No, going into a bar is not mathematically equal to saying "rape me!" but bad things happen in bars and yah i think people with brains avoid them.)
YES i think women are strong and capable enough to take hold of their own lives. YES i think most rapes that involve people like me - middle class chicks in the suburbs or college towns or in rural areas - are totally preventable. Im sorry but i STILL have no idea what part of my logic you people think is so crazy. Do you think it is just coincidence that i have never been raped? I admit that now (and for the last couple years since my last job) i am (according to some) a "bubble baby" and i dont get out much. But i went to college and lived in a college town and i used to go to clubs and stuff and i have yet to hear of a SINGLE rape case involving people like me where i didnt think to myself "man she should have seen THAT one coming WTF!!"
I am NOT trying to cause problems and act like a crazy radical bitch, and the fact that the vibes i get are often like "oh you crazy trouble causing radical bitch" vibes (especially from fizzyland & this_lj_user) makes me kind of understand why so many gals set themselves up for horrible things like rape. So many of you people simply dont know any better and you seem to think anyone who is cautious is just a radical prude or a church mouse or someone who will never find happiness. Well listen up bubba i found happiness and i didnt meet him in a flippin bar.
Is is that - is it ignorance? Do you REALLY think my views are that crazy then walk into a townie bar and go home with some scuzbag whose last name you dont know and then when you get raped or beaten you fail to see a connection between that kind of crap and the kind of caution i preach?? Or do you people KNOW better and you are just too loose with your flippin morals to admit "YES i am living a somewhat dangerous lifestyle and yes i have control over my life but choose to take the risks, then when it blows up in my face ill blame everyone but me!!"?? (In case you think i exaggerate, YES i think it IS dangerous and obviously so. Come on, i have to wonder how desperate a girl is who gets date raped for petes sakes. Im not saying someone who gets date raped is stupid, but i AM saying she is just not thinking clearly for whatever reason. She should not be chastised but pitied and educated that you dont go home with a guy unless you KNOW what kind of a person he is).
And if my statement how men are just a bunch of apes and brutes offends you, well obviously i dont hate men cuz i am with a man. But if you think i am crazy in saying men are pretty apelike and violent for the most part i suggest you read a little history. I just heard on the history channel (earlier tonight in fact - cuz my ape boyfriend has that stupid channel on all the time) that just in the 1990s ALONE over 100 million people were killed in wars on this planet. No offense bubba but i bet not a single one of these wars was started by a chick. To me a good man is a man who knows he is basically an ape who wants only to hump and fight and is able to deal with that fact maturely.